The holidays aren't always joyful

For many, the holiday season is associated with joy, family, and celebration. Yet for others, it can be a time of stress, loneliness, and emotional exhaustion. Whether due to strained family dynamics, grief, financial worries, or the pressure to meet unrealistic expectations, the festive period can intensify mental health struggles.

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. In fact, studies show that rates of depression, anxiety, and other mental health challenges spike during the holidays. This blog explores why the season can be so difficult, how to recognise when you’re struggling, and strategies to navigate this time with care and self-compassion.


Why do the holidays trigger mental health challenges? 

1. Pressure to be "happy"

The media often paints a picture of a “perfect” holiday: full of laughter, gifts, and smiling families, but it’s important to remember that these images are not everyone’s reality, and that’s okay. Real life doesn’t always look like that. If you’re not feeling cheerful, society's pressure to appear happy and festive can often intensify feelings of isolation or anxiety. 

2. Loneliness

Holidays can often highlight absences - whether due to distance, estrangement, or loss of a loved one. Those who are alone, or have experienced recent grief can find this season particularly painful.

3. Family tension

Family gatherings can bring unresolved conflicts or difficult dynamics to the surface. While some cherish these reunions, others may feel anxious or emotionally drained from expectations to “just get along.”

4. Financial stress

Gift-giving, hosting, and travel expenses add up quickly. For those on tight budgets, financial pressure can lead to increased anxiety.

5. Grief and loss

Holidays often bring memories of loved ones who are no longer with us. Traditions that once brought joy may now feel empty, making it a difficult time to process grief.

Recognising when you're struggling

Mental health struggles during the holidays don’t always look the same for everyone. Be aware of the following signs in yourself or loved ones:

  • Increased feelings of sadness, loneliness, or hopelessness.
  • Fatigue, trouble sleeping, or changes in appetite.
  • Withdrawal from social situations or avoidance of plans.
  • Increased irritability, frustration, or tension.
  • Using substances like alcohol as a coping mechanism.

If these feelings persist or interfere with daily life, it may be time to seek support.

Practical ways to care for your mental health this season

1. Set realistic expectations

It’s okay if the holidays aren’t perfect. Let go of others' expectations and focus on what’s most meaningful to you - even if it’s simple or different from past years.

2. Create healthy boundaries

You don’t have to attend every event or engage with every family member. If certain gatherings or topics bring stress, it’s okay to say “no”.

3. Acknowledge your feelings

If you’re feeling sad, lonely, or overwhelmed, give yourself permission to feel that way. You don’t have to force happiness.

4. Honour loved ones you’ve lost

Find ways to include the memory of loved ones during the holidays - be it  storytelling, or simply taking time to reflect and reminisce. It’s a healthy way to process grief.

5. Stay connected

If you’re feeling lonely, reach out to friends, support groups, or local community events. Connecting with just one person who understands can make a difference.

6. Manage financial stress

Set a budget that works for you and focus on gifts or gestures that are thoughtful rather than expensive. Time, kindness, and homemade items are equally meaningful.

7. Prioritise self-care

Make time for activities that nourish you - like going for a walk, journaling, listening to music, or spending quiet time alone. Sometimes stepping away from the noise can be healing.

8. Seek professional support

If you’re finding it hard to cope, talking to a mental health professional can provide guidance and relief. You don’t have to manage it alone.

You’re not alone

While the holidays can feel overwhelming, it’s important to remember that you’re not alone in your experience. Many people face similar struggles during this time, even if they aren’t vocal about it. Reaching out for support - whether from a friend, a loved one, or a professional - is a sign of strength, not weakness.

This holiday season, give yourself the gift of grace and self-compassion. It’s okay to prioritise your mental health, set boundaries, and approach the season in a way that feels authentic to you.

If you need support

If you’re struggling this holiday season, consider reaching out to a mental health professional or support service in your area. Help is available. 

You deserve to feel heard, understood, and supported.

At Avive, we’re committed to providing compassionate support for those facing mental health challenges. If you or someone you know needs assistance, please don’t hesitate to get in touch. Our team is here to help - and we will be keeping our doors wide open over the Christmas/New Year period.

Our caring staff will be available throughout the entire months of December and January to provide support to those in need.